"How do I get my girl to have a threesome?" "Were you always into threesomes?" "Who's idea was it?"
I get asked these questions a lot, so here are my answers!
First, have I always been into threesomes? No. When I met Colter, I had never even considered the idea. He expressed his interest to me in having a threesome with another guy; I'll admit I was scared by the idea. I wasn't sure that was something I could do. What I told him at the time was, "It's not something I want to do right now, but I'm pretty open-minded. Let's give it some time."
How then did we go from me not being down to where we are today? Let's explore that by answering the question, "How do I get my girl to have a threesome?". The most crucial advice I can give here is to set a good foundation. If your relationship is rocky, adding sexual exploration will only worsen it. So, make an effort to make sure your girl is happy. Do the things you know she likes sexually. Turn her on, and get that pussy wet. Being hyper-horny makes the mind more open to kinkier things. If she's turned on by something she enjoys already, this will make it safer to explore the idea.
What if you've already floated the idea, and she said no? This is tricky to navigate; however definitely doable. The truth is people change. Things that give us sexual desire are much more malleable than people think. So, if your girl has told you no, my advice is to be patient. Keep making her horny with what she likes. Then, have a conversation when you feel you have done this and if your relationship is in a good spot. I would frame the discussion based on this idea; I understand it's not something that interests you; I was hoping we could work towards you doing it because it's something I want to experience.
At first glance, this may seem like a selfish argument; however, if you are in a committed relationship with someone, both people have to give to make it work. No two people are going to be a perfect sexual match. So, naturally, you're going to do things that turn your partner on that you don't care for, but you do it for them. This is just one more thing to squeeze into that category.
That being said, don't expect it to change overnight. Even if your girl agrees, take it slow, especially if she is scared to try it. Rushing into it when she is still on the fence will push her away from the idea. But if you go slow and find the right person to do it with, it can be gratifying and rewarding. This was the case for me. I was scared to try it, but I was hooked once we did.
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